如果你觉得实在是很难说出一些情绪，你可以尝试用第二语言谈论感情。当使用第二语言时，人们能更容易聊起原本难以启齿的话。因为第二语言更少地会激起人们下意识的羞耻感。当人们用第二语言描述情感时，他们仿佛与自己隔了一层，正是这种距离让人们更容易理性地自我分析与表达。下次觉得谈论情绪很不舒服时，可以切换成第二语言沟通。
除了口头表达外，我们也可以试着用其他方式表达情绪，例如写作、绘画等方式。选择一种让你最舒服的方式开始表达。而且，文字与画面可以保存，可以看到情绪表达能力的进步，也能在日后追查到某段时间里情绪的变化，更有利于情绪管理。
如果之前你不善于表达情绪，在看完今天的文章后，我们鼓励你在安全的环境下练习自我表达，或许当你开始表达后，你会发现“表达情绪不难也并不可怕”，它反而能给你带来自我审视的机会，以及和他人缔结深层联结的可能。
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